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Two psychopaths dating

You might think that's something you'd know right away by the red tint of evil in the person's eyes, the swastika tat on the forehead, or the insistence on discussing serial killers over dinner. Psychopaths can be extremely charming and come across like Prince Charming at first. On the first date, he'll probably tell you that you are stunningly beautiful, unbelievably intelligent, and uproariously witty.

So unless you know the signs, you'd probably get sucked into the life of a psychopath and not know who he or she really was until you are completely sucker punched. He will play into every fantasy and insecurity you have.

In the psychopaths mind, everyone else wants him, so you better be on your best behavior, or he will move on to one of his adoring fans. After he sucks you in with idealization, then begins to devalue you, he will suddenly discard you as if you never had a relationship. He will usually move on to another target at this point. "Hoovering." Although a psychopath will discard you, he doesn't quite want you moving on either.

If he senses you are done with him, he will suddenly do an about-face, and begin bombarding you with pleas to stay together.

(Those who have children with psychopaths must develop low contact, and keep in touch only as much as absolutely needed as regards the children.) Of course, nobody is perfect, and some people are just immature and go through periods of giving the silent treatment, or "devaluing" you with critical comments.

Other people may triangulate to create jealousy because they're insecure or bored or don't even quite realize they're doing it.

In my past relationships, I have had to fake what I am not feeling (i.e.

pretend to comfort the guy when he’s upset, force myself to do the whole stare-into-each-other’s-eyes thing, convince him that I feel the same way, etc.) I’m not sure if there are other socios out there that feel this, but strong expressions of love and sadness are the two emotions I feel the most phony mimicking.I can literally feel the insincerity seeping out of my pores.Near the end of relationships my tolerance for such acts fizzles out, and I am accused of not caring…and since I generally don’t, he ends up hurt.Rationale: Tending to a lover’s emotions is tiresome and an enormous waste of time.Dating a sociopath would eliminate this rollercoaster of ridiculous emotional performances, and we would be able to live in drama-free harmony.That's why we understand each other." If there's an obscure book you love, he will make sure he loves it too. Pay careful attention to what a psychopath says on the first few dates about his exes and other people in his life. Does he break his foot on your second date and has to cancel? ) Did he lose his first wife in a car accident that left him with brain trauma (yet he talks fine and seems fine)? Everyone wants great sex, but those who have been with a psychopath often say it's the best thing they've ever experienced. A form of keeping you off balance -- but also possibly an unconscious slip of the mask of his persona. The first step in that is usually to give you the silent treatment over something.What he's doing is called "mirroring." He has no real identity, so he sucks yours up and mirrors it back to you. Try to check out his stories -- call hospitals if you need to -- but don't be surprised if he has an excuse for why you can't find any record of any of his traumas. Psychopaths are also known to disappear for days at a time.The only way to get rid of a psychopath is to completely go no contact.It's the only thing that doesn't fuel his games and ego.As I slowly let it go (so as not to burn bridges just in case I ever need that bridge again), I usually get some sort of a love confession. Maybe it annoys me because it reminds me that I am incapable of feeling anything back.More likely, it’s because I have to waste my energy trying to let him down easy.

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