Dating before getting engaged
You don't have to (and probably shouldn't) join your bank accounts before you get engaged.
But, says Geer, "you should be able to establish a working financial plan that makes room for your individual as well as joint needs.
If you're not living together, you can still have this in place.
It’s so easy to get wrapped up in the fairytale aspect of wedding planning, making it easy to forget that besides planning a party, you are merging your life with your partner.
As a San Francisco based psychotherapist, I specialize in supporting individuals and couples in manifesting the life they envision.
Clients often wonder what the magic formula is for a successful relationship and more times then not my answer is communication and your relationship with yourself.
Whether single or coupled, consider these important conversations to create a solid foundation with your significant other. It can bring up feelings of shame, embarrassment, and comparative judgment. Harboring your feelings will only lead to resentment.
Before you get engaged, you should reach a place where you're comfortable in each other's social circles, says Jane Greer, Ph. "You want to be able to bring your partner to family events and happenings with friends, and you want to feel like they're becoming a part of your network," she explains.
"It's important that they not only meet these people in your life, but that they begin to demonstrate their compatibility."2. A little getaway is not only good for your relationship, but "traveling together is a great way to get to know each other outside of your safe bubble," says April Masini, a New York-based relationship and etiquette expert.
It’s about learning to slow down, be less reactive, and engage in non-violent communication.
I am not referring to physical violence (which is always unacceptable) but to emotional violence.
I believe the most important thing that can be done for one another is to stay away from blame. This may seem like overkill to some, but consider this; issues with money contribute to divorce more than any other topic—sex, children, and division of labor. We all have our own narrative about what kind of life we want to provide for our future babies and sometimes it is hard to remember that there is another adult who has an equal say in how this whole parenting thing will play out.
It is okay to have a different “money personality” from your partner, and if there is something specific that you worry about in regards to finances, better to bring it up sooner then later. Raising a child with another person is perhaps one of the most fun and challenging adventures a couple will have together.