Body language in dating
So, how do we put our best foot forward without talking too much or not talking at all?
In a recent study, psychologists at the University of California, Berkeley, have found open body language, such as uncrossed limbs or a stretched torso, can boost our appeal to potential romantic partners in speed dating and online dating profiles.“We do know from past research that having an open posture communicates a lot.
A 2007 study found keeping our torso open towards others is the best way to show that we’re available and interested.
Crossing our arms or holding our phones in front of our chest while checking them makes us appear guarded.
This prompted Vacharkulksemsuk and her colleagues to observe whether open, expansive postures would lead to more "yeses" when it comes to meeting for a second date in speed and online dating situations.
In the first experiment, researchers analyzed nonverbal body language interactions, along with nonverbal cues of affiliation (e.g, smiles, laughs, head nods) among 144 female-male speed-dates which lasted 4 minutes.
Confidence, high self-esteem, being open, and being relaxed.
Doing this over the course of a date can be beneficial,” Tanya Vacharkulksemsuk, lead author of the study and a post-doctoral research fellow at UC Berkeley, told .Men were attracted to women with open body language.This comes in contrast to the current widely held assumption that social and economic status is important only to women.Nonverbal affiliative behaviors did not show the same effects.Holly Parker, a Harvard lecturer on the psychology of close relationships and a psychotherapist, believes this positive body language, such as an expansive posture, signals that we’re interested in the person.Information gathered over weeks and months of courtship is now obtained in mere minutes or seconds.The researchers found online dating profiles featuring photos depicting expansive body posture were 27 percent more likely to elicit a “yes” response.After each date, participants would rate their date and indicate whether they would like to see the person again.They found an open, expansive nonverbal pose expressed during the date significantly predicted the odds of getting a "yes" response.With 91 million people across the world finding love via mobile apps today, how you stand could be crucial.It’s not easy to change our eye color, but it is simple to maintain an open, outward appearance using subtle body language.“It's a very exciting time to be researching with what we know how humans think and feel in these specific contexts of dating we see these days.