“It’s a new environment, but the same human motivations and tendencies manifest themselves as they do in other contexts,” Toma says.“The way we, as two unique individuals, communicate with one another is impossible to capture in a profile.For example, only 15 to 20 percent of people lied about their age, and the vast majority were honest about their relationship status or whether they had children — elements of their lives that would be difficult to hide from partners for very long.
“They don’t lie a great deal because they don’t want to alienate potential partners.
Nobody wants to be with a liar.” Though preferences vary widely, many online daters prefer to meet potential partners in person relatively quickly after establishing a basic level of compatibility through email or phone contacts.
According to a survey conducted last winter by the daily news site BU Today and answered by more than 4,000 students, it’s not always clear that a date is a date, it’s hard to know when a relationship is a relationship, and the best clue to the true nature of an invitation is often the time of day (or night) that it’s issued.
(Male and female students agree that any suggestion to get together that arrives after midnight can be construed as a “booty call.” Students of other gender identities put the demarcation at 10 p.m.) The nonscientific survey, which asked about such things as what constitutes a date and the usefulness of social media, tells us much about the dating preferences of students on the Charles River Campus.
The preferred method of asking or being asked out is in person, by a wide margin.